I’m 33 and ended my 13 year relationship last month. I’m so with you on this journey to learning who I truly am, and all the wants, needs and desires that are buried deep. I don’t think there is a better time to do this than in our 30s, setting us up for the most freeing of 40s. My 20s were hella fun but I hadn’t yet learned to advocate for myself or set boundaries, and was much more impressionable and people pleasing. Whereas in my 30s, I feel like I’ve shed some of that and so I have more control and clarity. All this is to say, I’m excited for what comes for both us in this next chapter. Right here with you babe 💘
Wow, that's HUGE! 13 years is a long time! How are you doing? I'm absolutely with you on that, we are figuring out who we truly are so we can really have exactly what we want in the next chapter. I'm excited for us too!!! 🥹 thanks for being here ❤️
Hi! I’m right there with you. The homecoming. The intentional alone time is real. I used to look at alone time as filler in between time spent with him. A rude but much needed awakening. Sending hugs on your healing journey. Thanks for sharing your thoughts ❤️
I am one year post break up and I have done all things you have listed (including the dying my hair red!) I can tell you even a year post break up you will continue to rediscover parts of yourself and—dare I say—find new ones entirely! Break ups suck: they’re messy and painful. I had a cousin reach out to me and asked me when I knew I needed to break up with my boyfriend. Truth be told I didn’t until it was too late. However, I said “looking back on it now it is clear to me the relationship wasn’t growing and I was in need of a growth spurt.” Give yourself grace, grief is never linear💛
Ugh thank you sooo much for this comment. So kind, yeah it’s an up and down situation for sure! Some days I feel surprisingly okay and some days I feel so sad. I know in the long run it’s for the best, sorry to hear about your break up but glad to hear you also did everything on the list! ahaha seems like dying your hair red is some sort of antidote to heartbreak xxx
Loved reading this, approximately 2.5 months after my break up! I also feel like I'm reclaiming some parts of myself I hadn't even realized I had let go of, and discovering new things about myself that are just mine (for now). It's a roller-coaster ride for sure, but still enjoyable in some small little ways.
we're twinning then!! that's exactly it. you sort of don't even realise you are loosing parts of yourself in the process of being with that person? its a weird feeling, but also such an exciting experience of getting to know ones self. sending you loads of love, it truly is a painful spot to be in too. its so nice to connect with others in a similar situation. thank you so much for reading 🩷
I’m nowhere close to were you are in the post breakup (if getting shattered by a guy I dated for 3 months counts as breakup), but I admire you so much!
The only thing I actually did one day before meeting him for the last time was dying my hair red, highly recommended! 💇♀️
it definitely still counts!! they all suck!!! sending you lots of love. so glad you enjoyed, thats so kind of you 🥺🩷 omg you did that!! love it , i feel like dying your hair red is such a power move! I may have to join you very soon!!
This was a great read! There's something really lovelh about the journey of self-discovery after a break up, despite the fact that it begins at such a difficult time.
Love how we both went through breakups at the same time while also turning 30 the same year, makes for highly relatable content - dye the hair, you can always go back :)
It is isn't it!! 😂 I can't tell if its giving empowered woman who will not be tamed !! OR girl on the verge of a nervy b??? 👀
Haha I love to hear it! I was also considering a bob for a while but my hair is too thin I just don't think I could pull it off. So suits you in your pic so was obviously a good decision ❤️
This is so beautiful 🥹 I know I don’t know you, but I’m so proud of your journey post breakup. A really delicate, difficult and lonely time. I love that you’re rediscovering yourself and that are loving you better in so many ways 🥰 whilst I’m married, I’m on a very similar journey because I realised I had no clue who I was and that itself was making me terribly unhappy. Sending so many 🤗 from London
Teresa ❤️🥰 You're words are truly so kind! Thank you so much. I can't tell you how much I appreciate it. I'm sorry to hear that you are in a similar situation of not knowing; it can be truly a weird and scary feeling. We will both get there. Sending so much love, I hope this year brings you amazing things! So glad you are here. ❤️✨
Hi, I'm so glad you are here, thanks for reading! Sorry you're going through it right now. The separating part is hard. Sending you love right back!! 💕
Oww thanks!! Im so glad it was an enjoyable read! Honestly I’m so all over the place with my emotions these days that if I give off any feelings of calm I take that as a big win! Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it ❤️
I’m 33 and ended my 13 year relationship last month. I’m so with you on this journey to learning who I truly am, and all the wants, needs and desires that are buried deep. I don’t think there is a better time to do this than in our 30s, setting us up for the most freeing of 40s. My 20s were hella fun but I hadn’t yet learned to advocate for myself or set boundaries, and was much more impressionable and people pleasing. Whereas in my 30s, I feel like I’ve shed some of that and so I have more control and clarity. All this is to say, I’m excited for what comes for both us in this next chapter. Right here with you babe 💘
Wow, that's HUGE! 13 years is a long time! How are you doing? I'm absolutely with you on that, we are figuring out who we truly are so we can really have exactly what we want in the next chapter. I'm excited for us too!!! 🥹 thanks for being here ❤️
Hi! I’m right there with you. The homecoming. The intentional alone time is real. I used to look at alone time as filler in between time spent with him. A rude but much needed awakening. Sending hugs on your healing journey. Thanks for sharing your thoughts ❤️
I am one year post break up and I have done all things you have listed (including the dying my hair red!) I can tell you even a year post break up you will continue to rediscover parts of yourself and—dare I say—find new ones entirely! Break ups suck: they’re messy and painful. I had a cousin reach out to me and asked me when I knew I needed to break up with my boyfriend. Truth be told I didn’t until it was too late. However, I said “looking back on it now it is clear to me the relationship wasn’t growing and I was in need of a growth spurt.” Give yourself grace, grief is never linear💛
Ugh thank you sooo much for this comment. So kind, yeah it’s an up and down situation for sure! Some days I feel surprisingly okay and some days I feel so sad. I know in the long run it’s for the best, sorry to hear about your break up but glad to hear you also did everything on the list! ahaha seems like dying your hair red is some sort of antidote to heartbreak xxx
Loved reading this, approximately 2.5 months after my break up! I also feel like I'm reclaiming some parts of myself I hadn't even realized I had let go of, and discovering new things about myself that are just mine (for now). It's a roller-coaster ride for sure, but still enjoyable in some small little ways.
we're twinning then!! that's exactly it. you sort of don't even realise you are loosing parts of yourself in the process of being with that person? its a weird feeling, but also such an exciting experience of getting to know ones self. sending you loads of love, it truly is a painful spot to be in too. its so nice to connect with others in a similar situation. thank you so much for reading 🩷
I’m nowhere close to were you are in the post breakup (if getting shattered by a guy I dated for 3 months counts as breakup), but I admire you so much!
The only thing I actually did one day before meeting him for the last time was dying my hair red, highly recommended! 💇♀️
it definitely still counts!! they all suck!!! sending you lots of love. so glad you enjoyed, thats so kind of you 🥺🩷 omg you did that!! love it , i feel like dying your hair red is such a power move! I may have to join you very soon!!
You are home!!!!!
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This was a great read! There's something really lovelh about the journey of self-discovery after a break up, despite the fact that it begins at such a difficult time.
Thank you Margaret ❤️ completely agree! Thank you so much for reading and being here 🥹 xx
Love how we both went through breakups at the same time while also turning 30 the same year, makes for highly relatable content - dye the hair, you can always go back :)
Yay I know it’s so nice to know I’m not the only one! Thanks for being here. How you finding your breakup so far? I may just have to ! 👩🦰X
Dyeing your hair red is indeed a big post-breakup clique alright, but that doesn't mean it isn't the right time to do it ;)
Sincerely,
Chopped all my hair off down to a bob after my breakup.
It is isn't it!! 😂 I can't tell if its giving empowered woman who will not be tamed !! OR girl on the verge of a nervy b??? 👀
Haha I love to hear it! I was also considering a bob for a while but my hair is too thin I just don't think I could pull it off. So suits you in your pic so was obviously a good decision ❤️
Thanks for reading!!! xxx
This is so beautiful 🥹 I know I don’t know you, but I’m so proud of your journey post breakup. A really delicate, difficult and lonely time. I love that you’re rediscovering yourself and that are loving you better in so many ways 🥰 whilst I’m married, I’m on a very similar journey because I realised I had no clue who I was and that itself was making me terribly unhappy. Sending so many 🤗 from London
Teresa ❤️🥰 You're words are truly so kind! Thank you so much. I can't tell you how much I appreciate it. I'm sorry to hear that you are in a similar situation of not knowing; it can be truly a weird and scary feeling. We will both get there. Sending so much love, I hope this year brings you amazing things! So glad you are here. ❤️✨
Looking forward to more updates. You’re not alone 💫👐
Hi, I'm so glad you are here, thanks for reading! Sorry you're going through it right now. The separating part is hard. Sending you love right back!! 💕
Oww thanks!! Im so glad it was an enjoyable read! Honestly I’m so all over the place with my emotions these days that if I give off any feelings of calm I take that as a big win! Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it ❤️