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Bita's avatar

“It’s not actually you they are running from, its the version of themselves they would need to become to be with you.”

Ouch. I am currently in a relationship with the most wonderful affectionate partner (most of the time) who constantly expresses their fear of commitment and “having to give up other options”. They’re doing the work, I’m seeing it in real time, but this might be the biggest piece of truth of dating an avoidant. It’s not that I’m not enough, it’s that there’s a choice they’re not making. It stings to hear but it’s so necessary to be aware of.

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The 30 Year Shift's avatar

Ah I totally get it, its so hard. I'm sending you so much love, and if they're doing the work then that's a huge step! No one is perfect, and we allll have out stuff we need to work on. Big hug. Thanks so much for reading xxx

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Patrick Oakes's avatar

Oops, been on the avoidant person’s side of this interaction in the past. Great read thank you for the reality check 🤘

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The 30 Year Shift's avatar

Ah I'm so glad my words found you then! Hope the reality check wasn't too harsh 😂👀 ❤️

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London in a Flash's avatar

Beautiful! 👏

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The 30 Year Shift's avatar

thank you lovely!

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